Prospective Personality

by | May 27, 2021 | Uncategorized

PROSPECTIVE PERSONALITY

Last week we read there is no gene for criminal behaviour. Crime is learned, just like every other learned and observed behavior. And since baby Gabbar Singh learned from observation, what if he were put in an environment filled with love, compassion, trust, and kindness, what would have been the result of his upbringing?

Let us dwell deeper, by first understanding what are these environmental factors that impact the development of a child. It usually fits into many categories, but we will focus on 3 categories:

  • Physical environment, the child’s home, the family, the bonding, the affection, neighborhood, the state.
  • Emotional environment, which is how well families meet the child’s relational needs at home, the conversations, the emotional moments they share with their family and/or friends.
  • Social environment, which is the child’s relationships, friendships with other children and people

Let us go step by step

We will begin with the effect of the Physical environment on a child’s development, which includes the physical surroundings they are raised in. If the living environment is cramped, noisy and filled with aggression and hurtful comments, our child’s personality will adjust to this aggressive environment and be affected accordingly. If the attention towards the child is divided (s)he may seek out alternative forms of attention which can lead to an emotional distance between the child and us. Similarly, unpleasant surroundings often cause children to block out or bury negativity, making them more introverted

One of the most important influencing factors on a child’s development is Us, ‘the child’s Family’. Irrespective of who is a child’s primary caregiver, the bonding ‘We’ provide at home helps nurture and protect our children both physically and emotionally.

Spend quality time with your children. Show affection and love, create a secure bond with them, that will help the children grow with secure attachment and confidence. Remember, our children are watching, observing, learning, what we say, and what we do, they also understand when we lie and when we are fake and then the best thing happens… They PRACTICE what they have Observed and Learnt from their environment……

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Building Environment

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BUILDING ENVIRONMENT

“Spend quality time with your children. Show affection and love, create a secure bond with them, that will help the children grow with secure attachment and confidence” This is where we left off last week, so I am going to pick it up from here, I had suggested that we need to build the base of our environment. So here are a few strategies to help you create an ENVIRONMENT.

“Spend quality time with your children. Show affection and love, create a secure bond with them, that will help the children grow with secure attachment and confidence” This is where we left off last week, so I am going to pick it up from here, I had suggested that we need to build the base of our environment. So here are a few strategies to help you create an ENVIRONMENT.

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99% Same and 1% Different

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99% SAME AND 1% DIFFERENT

Did You Know?

Among all the great apes, Orangutans are humans’ most distant cousins. The researchers found that the Human and Orangutan genomes are 97 percent identical. No wonder, we are always so jumpy, restless, playful, sometimes solitary, and attached to our young. Humans share at least 28 unique physical characteristics with orangutans but only 2 with chimps and 7 with gorillas. For instance, thickly enamelled molar teeth with flat surfaces, greater asymmetries between the left and right side of the brain, an increased cartilage-to-bone ratio in the forearm, and similarly shaped shoulder blades. So the next time, we see an orangutan, let’s be Respectful!

Well, last week, I initiated the Nature-Nurture angle to understanding who we are, shall we drill a little further to see where it leads us? John Watson, the founder of Behaviourism, said that if we gave him a dozen healthy babies, he could take any one of them at random and train him or her to become any type of person—that he could mould people’s interests, motivations, emotions, abilities, and traits into whatever he chose. The idea that people are born more or less as a blank slate, and gain their personalities through experience and learning, from the environment dominated the early studies, but fizzled out soon…Wondering why?

Let me put it this way. It’s like asking what factors are important in baking a cake—the ingredients, or how the ingredients are prepared (nature) and the process of baking (nurture). You can’t have a cake without both ingredients and a high temperature, and you can’t have a personality without both genetic factors and personal experiences that occur within certain environments. So what have we learned so 

far, more than 99% of every person’s genes are identical to those of every other person and us also share about 97% of our genes with Orangutans, but that 1% of our genes are the genes that make each of us look and act differently from other people. Those genes underlie differences in people’s personalities, our characteristics, our traits, our experiences, our practices and that is where the story of Character Development begins!

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Character Development in the 21st Century

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CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT IN THE 21st Century

Let us first understand the meaning of Character. For the sake of convenience, I will take each definition separately and then link it later. So, according to Dictionary.com, a Character is defined as “a person in a novel, play, or film.

Did you know, that the top 5 Characters of Indian
Cinema till date are:-
1. Gabbar Singh – Sholay
2. Mogambo of Mr. India
3. Munnabhai of Munnabhai MBBS
4. Sher khan of Zanjeer
5. Chulbul Pandey of Dabaang

There is a saying “A high IQ can get you a job, but a high EQ will
keep you on the Job.” Coursera presented the Top 10 in-focus
skills in the World Economic Forum in 2020, they also presented
the Top 10 in-focus skills in the year 2019. Of the top 10, four of
the 10 in-focus skills in 2020 are Kindness, Gratitude, Meditation,
Mindfulness and this has changed in a span of year, which brings
us to a very important question, “Do we need to re-look at the
skills we are teaching our children?”

t is surprising how, such a variety of traits become so appealing to us, when we watch them in movies, appealing enough to award them the best character in Indian Cinematic History. Let’s do a character sketch of ‘Yours Truly [Mr. Gabbar Singh]’ played by Amjad Khan, depicted as a dacoit with an evil laugh who leads a group in looting and plundering the villages in the region of Ramgarh.
He has a sadistic personality and insists on killing whenever required to continue his status and to take revenge on his enemies. The movie also featured two other characters Jai and Veeru. Jai was an introvert, he was very brave, intelligent and kind but these qualities hardly got noticed by movie watchers even though he was one of the lead characters in the movie and that brings me to my question, If we made Mr. Gabbar Singh famous, what does that say about us and the

This brings me back to Gabbar Singh, and why we as an audience chose him as the number ONE favorite Bollywood Character Let us Choose wisely, before it is too Late!

characteristics we are looking for in our children, our students or even our staff?

A Thought to Ponder On!

‘Character’ is also defined as “the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.” It’s funny how both things go hand in hand when we socialize with people. At most times, we wear an actor’s mask, and yet hope to come across as distinct and unique, at other times, we choose to be someone else because we feel, that is more accepted than “being me”.

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Core Values and Skills

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CORE VALUES AND SKILLS

Building a new ENVIRONMENT takes time, takes practice, patience, and requires Grit! But we will discuss Grit another time.
This week let us focus on a few Core Values that you want to instill in your children and your family, which will, in turn, help you build the value-based environment you need.
Here is a Value-based assessment that you can take along with your spouse / other caregivers to find a common ground.

There is a saying “A high IQ can get you a job, but a high EQ will
keep you on the Job.” Coursera presented the Top 10 in-focus
skills in the World Economic Forum in 2020, they also presented
the Top 10 in-focus skills in the year 2019. Of the top 10, four of
the 10 in-focus skills in 2020 are Kindness, Gratitude, Meditation,
Mindfulness and this has changed in a span of year, which brings
us to a very important question, “Do we need to re-look at the
skills we are teaching our children?”

India has a very rich culture, but Indians adopt a ‘do-it-my-own-way’ approach to nurturing this culture and life in general, which is misinterpreted as “power” or “aggression” as a solution. I know you need proof, please watch the news on the TV. The prime time hour on most Indian news channels these days always debate crimes, or hypocrisy, deceit, violence, and all the gruesomeness that exists, as opposed to Compassion, Kindness, Ethics and Humility teach life and goodness. Let me ask, “Is there a movie that can be made without an act of aggression or violence in it, including comedy movies, and if there is, would we enjoy it as much as a movie with a hint of violence and manipulation?”

This brings me back to Gabbar Singh, and why we as an audience chose him as the number ONE favorite Bollywood Character Let us Choose wisely, before it is too Late!

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